I have avoided goal setting for a long time.
Ugh- there I said it. I know it sounds silly. I mean what's the big deal right? And aren't goals a good thing?
Yeah, goals should be a good thing, but when you have it in your head that whenever you set goals, you fail- you don't quite hit that goal- well, goals become horrible things.
Thankfully, I have made a lot of progress over the last month or so. I haven't just set goals. I have set BIG goals. I have also been talking to other people about goal setting and you know what I have found? I am not the only one with an aversion to goals!!
These few people I have talked to (and myself) all expressed the same issue with goals: there is a major fear of failure and also a fear of the embarrassment and shame that comes along with that failure.
Our brains are only able to envision the future based on what has happened in our past. So, if every time you set a goal, you don't quite meet it or you don't make an effort to achieve it, your brain concludes that when you set goals you fail. This is just a natural part of our programming for survival. For example, we need to be able to experience a life-threatening situation once and learn either, how to get through it safely or how to avoid it entirely.
There are a couple of things to consider when considering goal setting. First of all, logically, we know that our past does not determine our futures. Just because you didn't meet one of your goals, doesn't mean that you won't smash the next goal you set! Second, there are benefits to failure. I know it sounds crazy, but really think about it. Not only are you learning ways that don't work to meet the goal you set, but you are also opening yourself up to the possibility of something altogether different. Here are ten examples of inventors that didn't meet the goal they set out to.... they just changed the world with their accidental inventions instead!
If you have the desire to accomplish something (anything!), all you need is the determination to see your project, journey or process through. It can be so easy to give in, to give up and to forget. You will never lose that desire no matter how hard you try. Please consider this before you give up completely: What if? What if you are meant to create a life-changing invention? What if you are the only person on the planet to educate on a certain topic? What if your story is the story that changes the live of one desperate person? 5 people? 100 people? What if you push through, smash your goal, and change your own life? And the lives of those you love with it?
Goal setting can be a challenge. Facing the fear of failure is not fun. This is not the path of least resistance. However, this can be the most rewarding path. Don't quit. You are the only person capable of doing whatever desire is on your heart. The world needs you. There is only one you.
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A huge part of that has also been that I apparently have stuffed down my emotions the majority of my life. This lead to basically operating without emotions... until I was triggered (which wasn't rare 🤦♀️).
Rage is an emotion that I know well. I know that my familiarity with rage has not helped my relationships with those closest to me. If I wasn't raging or cluelessly hustling toward my next accomplishment, I was most likely crashed in bed or on the couch feeling worthless and exhausted. It didn't matter how caring and loving my family was being, I couldn't feel the love from them.... and they certainly weren't feeling the love from me.
My chiropractor had some essential oils in her office and I heard her talking about them to another patient one day... so I bought some. I found one that tamed the rage. I learned a lot about hormone disruptors and how many of my household products were contributing to my rage sessions and pitty parties.
I learned that feeling any emotion is OKAY. It seems too obvious, but it needs to be said. It is okay to feel. You are supposed to feel- it's how we connect deeply to others.
However, sometimes even the emotions that we accept can get in our way. Sometimes they can cause (chronic) physical pain, anxiety, or even prevent you from moving forward in certain areas of your life.
As a result, the subconscious mind uses what it has to pretect the heart: that spare material- trapped emotions. The trapped emotions are used to build a wall around the heart to keep it safe.
If we believe that love and our life force come from the heart and we know that trapped, lower-frequency (negative emotions) are forming a wall around the heart, then, we know that for anything to travel to or from the heart it has to pass through the heart wall. That means the love you are sending to your kids is polluted before it reaches them. That means that the organs that depend on your life force to sustain them are recieving a polluted version of your life force.
Have you ever been told to follow your heart? You can't follow a heart that is trapped behind a wall. There are so many ways we benefit from taking down our heart walls. So many parts of my life fell into place by simply sceheudling a heart wall session with my practitioner- from the family relationships, I mentioned earlier, to launching new aspects of my business with confidence and success. If this sounds like something you need, you can get more info and schedule here.
Emotions become trapped when they are not properly processed or are really powerful. Once an emotion is trapped in the body it has the potential to prevent you from accomplishing your goals, prevent you from deep connections with others, and even the potential to cause physical pain and illness.
Luckily, we are able to release emotions once they have become trapped. Bonus: it's super simple and virtually painless- no long-suffering therapy sessions necessary! 🙌
Fast forward to July of 2020 when my BFF mentioned that she had scheduled an Emotion Code session with a practitioner! I was interested and after she reported a positive experience, I made an appointment with the same practitioner. After several sessions, my practitioner mentioned that becoming certified in the Emotion Code would be a perfect addition to the services my business already offers- y'all, she wasn't kidding!!
The Emotion Code has opened up a whole new realm to me. So far, I have been able to work on horses, people, dogs, and cats from all over the United States and even in the UK!
I have seen the Emotion Code break bad habits, relieve physical pain, lift emotional weight off of people, find and relieve problems in animals that vets and other professionals couldn't identify, finally allow people to be free from extra physical weight and so much more.
If this is something that interests you, for yourself or an animal learn more and find booking info here: https://margaretparsons.com/page/emotion-code
I LOVE hustle. I love working.... yes, even physical labor. Growing up it was common to be told that working hard would deliver the results I was looking for- and so did Disney movies. Most TV shows and movies growing up did have an element of work hard to get what you want. But there were others that spoke truth- you have a purpose and when you focus on that purpose and showing up in service, miracles happen- people in my life would graciously remind me that "movies are just pretend."
Here's the truth- from a long time hustler/ workaholic: Alignment is what really matters- not how hard or how much you work.
I am not going to try to convince you that ghosts are real or any of the other woo-woo things that happened in that movie, but I KNOW that when we follow our hearts, walk in our purpose and serve others, we will be fulfilled, at peace, and be provided for.
I don't know about you, but when I was growing up, we didn't make too many trips to the doctor. My family has been blessed with good health. Its as easy as that, right?
The reality is that my family ate very little processed foods. My mother was "no fun" and never let me get my favorite sugar loaded cereals when we went to the store. She also made sure that I had limited access to pop. We always had plenty of fresh (home grown when possible) fruits and vegetables. I spent most of my days active and outside and when I was inside, my face was in a book. My mother also went to great lengths to ensure that my sister and I were not exposed to some of life's most negative, confusing and heart wrenching moments. I know that is really why my family was and has been so healthy. My mother did everything in her power to make sure that our family ate, moved and thought well. I don't know that she was aware then, but she set us all up to have optimum health.
What is optimum health? Heck, what is health? For most people I know, they have never experienced optimum health. We all have settled for health that can include headaches, soreness, heartburn, restless sleep, exhaustion and so many other "normal" symptoms. The truth is, health is living without symptoms. Health is your body being able to fight off any invaders without you even knowing that the invaders showed up. Health is the state that your body is in when everything is functioning the way it was meant to function. Your body systems are strong and efficient.
So what does it take to reach that kind of health? Optimal health, when your body is strong and efficient, is earned by eating well, thinking well and moving well.
Okay great- you know it all now- eat well, think well, move well- that's all there is to it... right? Yes and no. It depends on what you believe constitutes eating, thinking and moving well. Earning optimal health can seem overwhelming when we look at the magnitude of information available to us. High fat or high carb? Raw food or cooked foods... or both? Protein shakes or only whole foods? Supplements or no? And all these questions (and all their many different answers) only pertain to the "eat well" portion of optimal health! It is hard to believe that understanding how to obtain and maintain optimal health could possibly be simple with so much differing information.
The truth is that obtaining optimal health is simple. All anyone has to do is provide their body with the materials that are required by their DNA. Humans, as a species, all require the same materials for optimal health. The proper portions of fruits, vegetables and water are all required. As is the appropriate type and amount of exercise. And finally, thinking in a positive and open manner also plays into your current level of health.
It's usually that last bit there that really holds people up. It's pretty safe to say that "everyone" knows or has at least heard about eating less and moving more, but.... ummmmm, what the heck does my thinking have to do with my health?! A lot, actually.
All in all, this health business seems really complicated. Wellness and Prevention don't have to be though. It does take a little research and dedication and it is worth all of it if you want to avoid illness and experience your best life. An ounce of prevention is worth a pound of cure right?! If you are interested in starting your journey toward optimal health, I would highly recommend that you look up Dr. James Chestnut. It's important to remember two things: 1) this is your journey. You choose the path and customize it every step of the way; 2) you don't have to change everything in your life at once. You absolutely can turn your life upside-down, overhaul your lifestyle and remove all of the unnecessary chemicals from your life tomorrow. Or, you can start small by just eating one more serving of fruit and vegetables tomorrow than you usually would. Then maybe ditch the standard, chemical-laden deodorant..... or decide that the one thing you will never change is your deodorant. It's completely up to you. Build a life you love and nourish your body to live the life you've built!
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